So here we are a month into the new year… time enough to conclude if you’ve left your weight struggle behind you, or if you’re carrying old patterns forward. If you’ve been focused solely on changing unwanted behaviours, my guess is, if you managed to make it through the first few days of your efforts, things started to unravel around the 10-day mark, and then sputtered to a halt by about the 3-week mark.
Call it the “human attention span”, this is about how long people can hold their focus (think: hold their breath) on changing unwanted behaviours, before having to dig deeper — into the beliefs that are supporting those behaviours. That’s right. ALL behaviours have underlying, supporting beliefs that keep them in place.
Problem is, unserving beliefs can be deeply layered and protected, making them difficult to identify or access on your own. Let’s use the analogy of climbing a mountain (I suppose an apt comparison for your weight struggle at times)… you can insist on making the trek yourself, which will likely involve a lot of false starts, missteps and wasted energy. Or, you could hire an experienced guide and use their sage wisdom to identify and access new paths for yourself and ensure a safer, more successful trek. Be aware though, you can only go as far as the beliefs of the person guiding you.
Now consider what you’re really trying to achieve with your weight loss. Do you just want to stop the struggle? Or do you want to transcend this struggle and learn to live in joy? These are two different states, grounded in different beliefs and requiring different sets of life skills. There are plenty of weight loss programs that provide a set of instructions to control and manage your weight, setting you up in a comfortable base camp so to speak, but this is a kind of limbo at best!
I believe we’re all searching for something greater that will get us to the top of the mountain — not just a pat program with a set of instructions, but a thoughtful process that teaches a course of becoming — something that goes way beyond what we assumed weight loss was about and into new areas of personal growth in our lives. I also believe women need a process that honours them and I’m not convinced this can be fully generated by men, simply because it requires walking the talk.
My feature article for this issue speaks to the personal odyssey we’re all on — the long journey home to wholeness that takes us from struggle to joy. I’m hoping it gives you a new lens for looking at the struggle and joy in your life, and perhaps a springboard for making choices from a higher level of consideration.
With reverence,
Coach Kath
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